What % Compatible Are You and Your Partner?

By: Zoe Samuel
Estimated Completion Time
5 min
What % Compatible Are You and Your Partner?
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About This Quiz

These days, expectations for marriage have gone through the roof. It used to be that if you found someone who made a living or was a good domestic partner, then you had done as well as could be expected, and nobody expected flawless sexual chemistry or a profound intellectual connection. The idea that your partner should also be your best friend and that you should enjoy dorking out together and giggling into the small hours wasn't ridiculous, exactly, but it was considered the absolute jackpot of marriage, and not everyone assumed they could find it.

However, simply knowing that this is possible doesn't mean that you just assume that there is someone out there who will meet 100% of your needs. Many of us find someone we love, but we need time apart from them to indulge certain sides of ourselves, and they're cool with that. For example, we love fighting hard about whether Marvel or DC is better, and they just want to talk sports, so each side just joins a club and gets together afterward.

Are you and your partner compatible, and if so, in which way? Are you the complementary yin and yang; are you so alike that you are starting to look like each other; or are you actually papering over some cracks where your compatibility is a little lacking? Let's find out!

Do you ever get guilt if you watch your favorite show without them?
I would never!
We don't like the same shows.
Yes, but I do it anyway.
Not really

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On a casual weekend, what do you each wear?
Jeans, T-shirts, and caps
One wears sweats, the other dresses up nicely
Whatever we like
I don't know what they wear.

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How did you meet?
Through friends
Work
Dating app
Bar

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What do you most miss about being single?
Not much, honestly--I hated it.
Being able to just do a thing without telling anyone
Control of the remote
Meeting new people

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Do you like spending intimate time roughly as often as they do?
Yes, we have the same drive in that way.
One of us is higher but the other is happy to say yes!
One of us is a little higher, so we negotiate.
One of us is much higher, and it's a problem.

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Can you order for them in a restaurant?
Yes, 90% of the time
Yes, though I would not want what they get
Usually
Only when it is pizza

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How often does one of you steal the other's blanket?
Never
It happened a lot until we got different blankets!
Not so much now that we have a king-size bed.
All the time

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Be honest: Do you worry about them leaving you?
Never
Only sometimes, but that's a me problem, it's not based in reality
When we fight, it crosses my mind.
All the time

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Do your friends and family support your relationship?
Yes, they are totally into it
They support it, though they do not get it.
Generally, I guess
No, they say we are doomed.

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How often do you enjoy spending time apart from your boo?
A few hours here and there
A long weekend here and there
A day here and there
That would be a sign of the relationship ending, so I never want it!

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If there is a problem, do you argue about it?
We sit down and talk.
We have a big fight then make love later.
We have a bit of a row, I won't lie - but we apologize.
We yell. We storm out. Nothing changes.

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Do you think your partner enables your better traits?
Yes, they are obviously good for me.
Yes, in a weird way
Sometimes, but sometimes not
My fear is that they actually do the opposite.

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Can you truly be relaxed around them?
Yes, totally
Most of the time
Every so often I feel the opposite.
No

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Do you make an effort to keep it fresh?
Honestly, we don't really want to.
No need--it just stays fresh because of differences between us.
Yes, we have date nights and things like that.
I know we should.

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How long did your first date last?
Until the bar closed
Until we went home together
Until midnight
A couple hours

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Can you make them laugh without saying anything?
Yes, all the time!
Depends what mood we are in
Only when we are drunk
I don't think so.

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Have you been through some stuff and survived?
Oh yes, many times--disease, job loss, goodness knows what!
One or two things
Not yet
No, and I don't know if we will.

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Do you share a faith, or lack thereof?
Yes, we are on the same page.
We disagree, but it's not a big thing for either of us.
We agree on the big things, but not the details.
We disagree strongly.

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How similar are your attitudes to money?
Identical
Different but complementary
Different, so one of us takes the lead
Very different

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If you each got your dream dog, would the two dogs get on?
They would be the same dog!
They would not look like they would, but they would.
Yes, probably
We don't like dogs.

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How judged do you feel by your partner?
Basically never
Once in a while
Fairly often but only in a cute and nice way
All the time, alas

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If you were unconscious in the hospital, would you be sure they would make good decisions and advocate well for you?
Definitely
Yes, but only because we went over my wishes before.
I hope so.
I really doubt it.

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How do you feel about their weird little quirks like putting the mugs back in the cupboard just so?
We have all the same ones!
I think it's weird but I do it to make them smile.
I do a few of theirs so they do a few of mine!
I keep trying to persuade them to stop fussing about those things.

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Could you always see yourselves together in 50 years?
Of course!
Not at first, but now, definitely
Mostly, yes
I'm not sure.

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If you ask them not to look in your diary, will they look?
I don't ask them not to look!
Of course they won't!
They would look if they had a reason.
I think they looked.

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Do you have their passwords?
Of course--it's only safe to do that!
They know how to find them in an emergency.
No, we're not there yet.
No, and we will never do that!

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When you go to an event, how do you feel about them being on your arm?
Proud and happy!
Excited
A smidge nervous--I just really want people to like them!
Anxious--what if they drink too much or say something bad?

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If you won $1M, how well would your top three priorities match?
Yes, we already know them by heart.
No, but we'd make a deal!
One or two would
I doubt it.

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If they have a hobby that you just don't care about, can you say so?
We don't have any hobbies like this.
Yes, and it's no big deal. I have one or two they don't care to hear much about either.
I pretend to be interested just to be polite. They know I'm pretending so limit going on about it, also to be polite!
No, I have to join all the hobbies and convincingly pretend to like it. That's what being in a relationship means.

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Have you ever traveled separately?
Not really
Yes, many times, but we miss each other.
Only for work
Yes, we prefer it.

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