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Which of the 5 Love Languages Do You Speak?

By: Tori Highley

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About This Quiz

Whether you are struggling with your relationship or you're in a state of pure bliss with your honey, learning how to best communicate that love will help your relationship become more satisfying. Take this quiz to find out which of the five love languages you speak!

Which restaurant is most romantic?

Candle-lit Italian restaurant

Wood-fired pizza place

Trendy oyster house

Seven-course French restaurant

Tapas and fondue bar

Which gift do you give to your partner when they are leaving for an extended trip?

A copper business card stamped with a romantic message from me

A bracelet I made for them

Super soft pajamas for their hotel room

A schedule of the times I made available to video chat with them

A pillow that glows when I'm touching my matching pillow

Your partner is very stressed over planning a party for their friend. How do you help them out?

Encourage them by saying how much the friend is going to appreciate their work.

Make them a nice relaxing bath while I cook dinner.

Buy them a new planner to help them keep things organized.

Offer to help them with a few tasks, like decorating.

Give them a long massage when they finally have a moment to relax.

What is the most meaningful small gesture from your partner?

A good morning text

When they pack my favorite snack for me

When they bring me flowers or chocolate

Eating dinner together

A quick shoulder rub

Where would you propose to your partner?

At a small gathering of our close family and friends

In the backyard, after setting up a bunch of fairy lights and candles

At their favorite band concert, with the help of the band

After dessert on a romantic getaway

On the beach, by the light of a bonfire

If your partner does something that annoys you, how do you handle it?

Tell them how I feel

Try to avoid the problem

Give them something to prevent the issue

Spend time with them and hint that the problem irritates me

Just cuddle with them and try to embrace the issue

How do you like your gifts of flowers?

Given with a romantic card

Planted in my landscape

In a beautiful arrangement

Dried and in a framed arrangement

Made from frosting and on a baked good

How do you relax on an evening alone?

Reading a romantic novel

Crafting or woodworking

Shopping online

Chatting online with my friends

Petting my dog or cat

How do you feel if your partner is late meeting you for a dinner date?

I hope they have a good explanation.

I'm fine waiting, and I'll order an appetizer for us in the meantime.

I get anxious and start questioning if the restaurant was a good choice.

I'm upset that our time together is getting shorter than we planned.

I hope they aren't too stressed when they get here, but I know these things happen.

Which spontaneous and cheap date is most appealing?

Slow dancing in candle-light to my favorite music

Making and painting a birdhouse together

Taking a walk downtown and stopping for ice cream

Watching a meteor shower with a cozy blanket and hot cocoa

Making s'mores at the fireside

How would you feel if your partner went through your bag looking for mints?

I keep my journal in there! I hope they didn't read it.

I wouldn't have a problem with it.

I'd be scared they saw a receipt for something I bought as a Christmas gift!

The mints are my partner's anyway.

I'd be upset that they didn't ask me before going into my personal space.

What do you want to give your partner this Christmas?

Portable speakers with a mix-CD of our songs

A quilt I've started making this summer

A warm jacket that is their favorite shade of green

A romantic weekend away in January

Salsa dancing lessons

How do you surprise your partner on Sunday morning?

Singing them a song to wake them up

Making them breakfast in bed

Bringing them out to brunch

Putting their towel in the dryer while they shower so it's warm when they get out

Cuddling and showering with them

Do you care what your partner wears to your anniversary date?

I don't care even a little bit.

I spend a lot of time on my outfit, but I don't care what they wear.

If I care, I'll buy something new for them to wear as a gift.

We like to pick out matching outfits together.

As long as they look well groomed, it's fine.

How do you react to a text saying "We need to talk"?

I video call them immediately so that we can talk.

I am worried. I don't know why we would need to talk about something.

I start thinking about what I can do to show my partner how much I love them.

I say that we can do that over dinner tonight.

I say we should talk in person.

What do you hope your parents say about your partner?

"You guys really care for each other."

"They are so good at taking care of you!"

"They are so thoughtful."

"They take you on the best dates!"

"You look so comfortable around each other."

Which Friday night date sounds most romantic?

Wine tasting downtown, with dancing afterwards.

Pottery painting!

Going for dessert and a long walk on the beach.

Making a delicious meal together at home.

Pizza and movie-watching in our pajamas.

How do you feel about double dating?

I love hanging out with other couples!

It's fine, as long as it makes my partner happy.

I don't have a problem with it, as long as it isn't a special occasion.

I think it's a great way for my partner to get to know my friends and vice versa.

I prefer more private dates.

What do you do if your partner gets the flu?

Send encouraging texts and make sure they are taking their medicine.

Make them chicken noodle soup from scratch, and feed it to them.

Make sure they have everything they need to get better, including a stuffed animal to make them happy.

Spend more time hanging out with them so they don't feel lonely.

Cuddle them and make sure their fever stays down.

How do you support your partner when they are going for a job interview?

I encourage them and tell them how awesome they are.

I help them research the job and company so they know everything possible about the position.

I get them a professional folder for their resume.

I spend time practice-interviewing them so they are prepared.

I give them a shoulder rub so they are relaxed for the interview.

Which weekend getaway is most romantic for you?

A surprise trip to Paris!

A camping trip in the mountains

A room at a romantic resort with couple's massages

A surprise trip to a cabin with our best friends, with a private room of course

A 3-day cruise for couples

Which compliment is most touching to hear from your partner?

You are always so smooth with your words.

I can't believe you did this for me!

You know me so well.

You are my favorite person to be with.

Your presence means so much to me.

If your partner asks you to pick up some milk on the way home from work, what else do you get from the store?

Cute sticky notes in the checkout line

Ingredients for a nice dessert

A colorful bouquet of flowers

Their favorite cereal. I don't want to have to go back to the store in the morning.

Maybe their favorite chocolate bar, if I see it.

Which exercise do you want to do with your partner?

Bike riding around town

Backpacking on the weekend

Play golf together

Swing dancing together

One-on-one basketball matches

Which gift is necessary for a romantic Valentine's Day?

A heartfelt card with a personal note written in it

A homemade gift to cherish

Red roses are the best for Valentine's Day!

A night of reservations at our favorite dinner and dancing places

Candles and chocolate

What kind of a movie do you take your date to?

A spy film, because mystery is great for romance.

A fantasy film, because the CGI is so impressive.

A romantic comedy, because laughter makes a date more fun.

A documentary, so we can discuss the film afterwards.

A scary movie, so I can hold their hand.

How do you feel about your personal space?

I don't care very much about keeping my space private from my partner.

I like to keep my workspace private.

I like to keep my nightstand and a few other places private, but I don't mind sharing a space.

I feel like my partner and I have discussed our boundaries, and we know what is shared and what is private.

My partner and I are joined at the hip.

What would you do if you accidentally broke your partner's favorite one-of-a-kind mug?

Apologize frequently and buy them ice cream

I would attempt to fix it, and if I can't, I'll figure out how to make a new one.

Go find a mug that my partner will love just as much before I tell them about the broken one.

I offer to take them shopping for a replacement.

I take their hand and apologize for breaking it while we are cuddling on the couch.

How do you like to spend your birthday?

Catching up with old friends and family, on the phone or over lunch.

Being surprised by my partner's plans

Throwing a big party with all of my friends

Going on an adventure, like kayaking

I like a romantic dinner date with my partner.

How do you feel if your partner orders your usual for you at your favorite restaurant?

It would be so nice that they pay attention!

I would be slightly irritated. I like to order my own meal after looking through the menu.

I would be sad that my partner didn't expect me to try something new.

I'd be surprised that we've been to this place enough for them to know my order.

It wouldn't bother me. I do the same for them sometimes.

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